Winning: Losing and Gaining Something

In this world, it is always assumed that all things have their opposite. Beautiful for ugly, day for night, silent for loud, lose for gain, friend for foe, winners for losers, happy for sad and many more.

It's like joining a contest, one aims to win above all. I for one aims for the gold! And luckily I can win in God's grace. But there is something that I am not happy about always winning sometimes and being always the cream of the crop. I know it is ridiculous to hate to win, but that's what I feel sometimes. And that is simply because of one reason, that is some of my fellow students are kind off making me feel isolated. They always say "maayo man ka kai like this, like that!" I really hate it. Instead of being flattered, I feel discriminated. That's why I view winning in two opposite perspective namely: gaining and losing.

Gaining. It is because aside from the certificates and medals that are to be added in my collection, the trust and fame is there. And my self esteem is always being brought to a higher level. I always gain appreciation. And I am thankful about that. Since my first day at NDSCP I always long to be the best so that I could get noticed and woah, I did! And in winning I also did gain self security and confidence. It is in winning I feel appreciated.

But on the other side of winning I am losing something. And that thing is very important, it's belongingness. I feel alienated among my fellow students sometimes. That is basically because they feel I do not belong to the group they are in, despite all the honors I bring to my department I am sometimes not happy.

I just hope that after this post, they will welcome me as an ordinary person, trying to fit in but stand out. Trying to do ordinary things in an extraordinary way. I want to belong. How I wish to win not only the contest but as well as their respect and warmth.

Unexpected Help!

During the search for Mr. and Ms. Intramurals '09, I have no one at the backstage to help me! Honestly I was expecting for a certain girl to help me, because she keeps on pressuring me to get the crown. She always says with a punch "ayaw ko pakaulawi mark ha!"(don't make a shame out of me). I was really expecting her to help me, she is my fellow education student but a year ahead. To that girl, I hate her.

But on the brighter side, a not-so-good friend of mine helped me! I was so surprised. I really would like to thank that person so much. Among my fellow education students, it is with him I like to share my victory (I can't believe I'm sying this),and of course to the sweet couple of education who are known as mami and dadi, and to our department head as well. That victory of mine was a product of unexpected help. First, when Jayson Rey Ea helped me. It was indeed a shocking event, never the less, I would like to thank him. Second, my COMPSCI friends did help me, they did not let the competition hinder our friendship. Sometimes, it came to my thought "how sport they are!unlike other department, they are the most open minded!, how I wish that all department would be like them!" And the most touching part of my Victory, is when the COMPSCI celebrated after the pageant, they let me join them like I'm part of their department!

To all the person who I have not expected to help, thank you! And to that girl, God bless you!

Enemies..,

"Love your Enemies"

- Jesus

This means that we must not let hatred grew in our hearts. We must be able to forgive others for their short comings unto us. We must be able to consider others and we must not also ignore them even if they are our enemies. As said in the Bible "What you bind on Earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you lose on earth shall be lost in heaven." This is the biblical meaning of the phrase "love your enemies".

I agree on this passage, however, I have my own viewpoint about this.

For me, this phrase means that we must be thankful if we have enemies. They are blessings in disguise. Basically because, when we have enemies, we are expected to have detractors. And these people will bring out the best in us ,since they are the ones who will challenge and urge our capacity to do things. In other words, they aid in the process of molding the better person within us and also they help in the creation of a new you that will soon exist.

The picture I would want to draw is that we must look at our enemies not as burdens in our lives, but rather, blessings that may tear the weak personality we have but will be bringing into existence the better and worthy person from our hearts.

Our foes may create steps that will pull us down, but on the brighter side of their existence, they serve us our stepping stones to achieve success. Additionally, they play the role of a construction worker that will help us build a better persona instead of a terrorist that will contribute to the death we fear.

On the contrary, I would rather have friends than foes. However, I would like to thank God for lending me enemies that contribute in my path to self-discovery and success.

But please, do make friends rather than foes.

The Naked Eye..,

"The naked eye deceives"- Michael Dorris.

Every now and then we humans use our eyes as weapon in our everyday living. According to scholars we are visual animals. We learn by seeing things, we record them in our minds. Thanks to our eyes we will be able to walk the road of life. That is the very function of our eyes, it makes us see things, thus, making us store it in our memories.

However, there are some things our eyes cannot see. Aside from the abstract things around us, it could not also detect the real intention of a person, nor it could recognize its true color. In other words, the opening quote of this post emphasizes that what our eyes sees does not assure that it is real. Moreover, the eye alone could not be relied in judging a character, basically because if we rely on it our judgment could be void. As such we must remember that what we see is not always what we get. Be careful of the good looking things that you see, they may possess the kind of evil you can not imagine they would have. And do not easily show your fears to horrible faces, they may carry an angelic heart.

Our eyes may be our weapons to survive, but mind you, when we keep on relying on it especially when making friends it may lead us to deception. I am not bringing out the negative side of the naked eye, but rather, I would like to warn my fellow visual species to be careful in the things you see. It is not an assurance that when a thing you see is tangible it is already real.

Nowadays, I have observed that many artists are on the rise most of them are actors, therefore, our generation is the era of actors and performers. The thing that I am putting into emphasis is that it is hard nowadays to tell who is who, who is what, and who did it. So the bottom line, use your eyes to see, use your brain to think but most of all use your heart to see the real things that require thinking.

Optimism's Reward

Every day we are faced to new challenges. Well, what else is new? As long as we are alive there would be problems along the way. But the best thing about having problems and being pressures, is that the best person within you arises and is brought into existence.

I received a forwarded message and its content in general is making use of an analogy of wines that are being produced from grapes due to pressure to and a person at his best despite life's inefficacy sometimes. In other words, the best within us is brought about by trials in our life. One thing I learned is that we must look at life in a positive perspective. It is because when one is optimistic enough, he can make burdens lighter, and sometimes it is not only his burdens that are being lifted but also others'.

The very price of an optimistic person is that he gets to have the best of life. This is so because of his attitude in which he always bite into the bright side of things. Instead of dealing with problems as burdens, he chose to face it as is it is only a homework to be submitted and that every equation has its own definite solution.

The bottom line here is that as individuals subject to problems, trials and burdens, we must be able to deal with it optimistically. In this way, you are making life a little lighter and placing it at its simplest state! Enjoy life as is you expose yourself to its beauty, as you explore is winding road and as you experience every bit of it and taste every flavor life may offer.

Stay positive and keep the candle burning. Oh and one more thing never let the road of life deceive you, try to lead is so that the destiny you would want to have will exist.

Victory

Every day we face a challenge to overcome,
Every moment we find solutions in our very palm.
Every problem will make us whole,
Every triumph will help us stand tall.

Victory is at stake,
That's why we avoid making mistakes.
But every error, will lead us to
The path we want to pursue.

Trials make us strong,
Even if life is not that long.
Friends keeps us going
Even if sometimes life is boring.

Life is never easy,
But it is always lovely.
Victory is what we are after
In life until forever.

The Road of Life

The road of life is full of twists and turns and sometimes a detour occurs.It is a long and a winding one. In other words it is full of uncertainties.

However, unlike any other road this road has no shortcut. You cannot easily proceed to adulthood without having passed the childhood (literally may be). And also in life people are searching for a well off life in which if it's possible they would want it instant. But they should know that before having a kind of life they must undergo a process mainly composed of aiming or setting goals, doing the desired acts, evaluating the acts done and finally enjoy the taste.

Aiming or setting goals. This step is the primary step(obvious!). In this step, an individual sets his mind to a certain goal he would want to accomplish sometime in the future. This is somewhat like a project plan, wherein you do make a pattern to follow in completing the project. You are listing the materials that are needed and total the cost of each item so that you can prepare for the expenses. It is like shaping your future, because when you have a goal you will never had a hard time in fulfilling a dream. In other words, it makes a person certain regarding what kind of life would he want to live.

Do it. After having a fixed goal things will follow smoothly. Of course you do the desired actions appropriate for your dream. For example, you want to be a good and famous writer then practice it. You must not stop on step one. Keep the fire burning within you so that you can achieve your goal. Never be discouraged by your failure. Failure is just there to measure your capability of achieving the dream you have within you. Never settle for anything less. GO FOR GOLD.

Evaluate it. In this step, you are task to check and evaluate the procedures you have done. this questions must be asked: have I done my best? have I not step on any one? have i done the right thing? was it appropriate?. If you could answer these questions, you can proceed to step four.

Enjoy the taste. Finally you have reached the goal. Reward yourself with the taste of success. Just don't mind your bruised knees. As they say the bruised knees belong to successful people.

Those are just some of the steps which proves that there is no shortcut in the road of life. Aside from a well off life people would wish to be happy. Not just an ordinary one but the intimate happiness known to man.

Just like having a well off life there isn't also a shortcut to happiness as they say. True indeed, happiness can not be easily achieved. Happiness is a noun which means a state of being happy brought about by good luck, fortunes, and even from simple yet meaningful things. Happiness has not got any certain steps in achieving it. But one thing is certain, if you want to achieve it work for it. And you must have the patience for it, happiness comes to those who believe that they can have it. I would suggest start by smiling. In smiling you are showing the world that you want to be happy. Smile despite the difficulties of life. A big laughter is an offspring of a heartily and well projected smile.

Life is really an unwinding road. Aside from its twist and turns, it does not have a certain meaning that would be acceptable for every puzzled minds. The mystery of its existence could not just simply be explained by biology. Life is a mystery that only our Almighty Father could define. However, its definition depends on how one perceives it. The reason for its existence depends on how one believes.