Building Good Human Relationship

10 Commandments of Human Relations

1. Speak to people.
   There is nothing as nice as a cheerful word of greeting.
   
   

2. Smile at people.
   It takes 72 muscles to frown, only 14 to smile.
   
   

3. Call people by name.
   The sweetest music to anyone's ears is the sound of his own name.
   
   

4. Be friendly and helpful.
   If you want friends, you must be one.
   
   

5. Be cordial.
   Speak and act as if everything you do is a joy to you.
   
   

6. Be genuinely interested in people.
   You can like almost everybody if you try.
   
   

7. Be generous with praise...
   and cautious with criticisms.
   
   

8. Be considerate with the feelings of others.
   There are usually three sides to a controversy: Yours, the other fellow's and the right side.
   
   

9. Be eager to lend a helping hand.
   Often it is appreciated more than you know.
   
   

10. Add to this:
    a good sense of humor, a huge dose of patience and a dash of humility. This combination will open many doors and the rewards will be enormous.

This are just commandments, I am an advocate of this one. But I firmly believe in the essence of being true to oneself. It would be better if we live with these commandments but I think there would be no better way of making friends or building relationship to others but being ourselves.

Last Minute Rush

"Oh it can wait" this is the common line of FILIPINOS every time they are ought to do things. This is the aspect which negates the FILIPINO culture. Like having oneself registered, the government has had the COMELEC available for registration sometime in the previous years, but many of us did not respond to that call instead we take an act ON the deadline. I for one registered my self ON the deadline for reasons that are enough for me to do it. During the process I just waited, because I said to myself I got no one to blame but me. Along the way an old woman complained why is the line not moving and what took the process so long. Then the officer in charge simply said "that's what we get when we register or do things on the last minute".

This situation manifests the kind of thinking most Filipinos have. Unlike any other culture, we tend to do things during the last minute. I can't really explain why, but the point is this attitude will not bring us to a better horizons. As it is said "don't wait for tomorrow, what you can do for today". Unfortunately, this quote lies only in our heads, but not running across our minds nor circulates in our hearts. I know we have our own reasons why we are doing this but please bear in mind that if we are to do things this way, we must be patient to deal with it.

Like in my case, I want to do many things but a notion in mind hinders this purpose in which it is the idea of the so-called come what may. Like in doing my report I already have GREAT plans as to how I will conduct it but on the process of doing it I tend to think "WELL THE DEADLINE IS FAR, WHAT'S THE HURRY!". The consequence of that, I have not realized what I planned. Very devastating isn't it? "I got all the time in the world, but I did not do something to realize my plan, what a shame!".

I guess this habit (mañana) is a result of the bahala na concept. We Filipinos (well not all, fewer than many I guess) are so ambitious but not so good in doing things for it to be realized. We have great plans and very innovative mind, but again it just stays in our mind and never transmitted to actions. This is very shameful, right? Some of us are willing to do amazing things for others but not for ourselves, we tend to exert more effort to do greater things for others and less efforts for ourseleves, which is not suppoised to be the case.

Bottomline, do things right away!