Believe in yourself!

"Self confidence and self esteem are the things a person must have".

This idea was injected into my system by my teacher back in high school. She stressed to me its importance in my pursuit for education and also in my daily life. According to her, it is the best weapon anyone can have in order to reach the peak of success. "You can only face other people if you have already faced your own self", she added.

Being confident gives you the power to deal with others in a smart manner. However, I do believe that one can only be confident enough if he is being true to himself. Your behavior is a manifestation of your attitude. It is believed that people who tell lies most of the time are the insecure ones. They could not face the problems within them, that is why they tend to lie. Lying, in other words, serves as their defense mechanism. So, in this case self confidence and self esteem is missing.

The very effective way for a person to be confident is to be true with himself. How could you be confident enough if you yourself do not trust you?

Let it begin in you and let it flow to them. Being honest to yourself is one way of being true to yourself. As a consequence, you can develop self confidence for you feel secure, thus, giving you the chance to stand out. The point here is that there is no need for us to pretend and become the person whom we think could make us stand out. The key word there is being true to oneself, only then, you will have the guts as well as opportunities to stand out. Ain't it nice to be affirmed for being you, and doing the things you think you could? Isn't it more flattering to display the work you have done as a product of your idea?

Reflect on this:

I have friend, who always feels insecure and would want to act in a way similar to his schoolmate who happens to be the crowd favorite. He always compares himself to that guy, sometimes he patterns his work to that person's. But he is having a hard time doing so. He could not be at his best for that guy's standards does not fit his nor his does.

Later, he realized that he could not be at his best if will continue on following his schoolmate. He said "Why should I pattern my life to his when I can do more!". After that realization, he concluded that it is better to be yourself and do the things your good at, than to be someone who you're not. It is good to follow role models though.

I guess you already draw the picture and get my point. The key to your success is to be yourself and believe in the things you can do. The best edge you have from others is being you. They will never get the chance and privilege to be you. They could never wear your shoes nor use your tooth brush. Do not be insecure of yourself, you can be the best, all you have to do is believe.

Never dare utter words such as "I am a good - for - nothing person" nor say "I'm nobody". We are special in every way. Howard Gardner said "every child or person is a potential genius". There are things I can do that you cannot and there are things you can which I cannot. In other words, there is no point of comparison among humans. Biblically, we are created in the likeness of the Lord and we are wonderfully and fearfully created. Therefore, we are so special, we just have to belive in ourself by being true to oneself. Do your best, expect for the best and be at yuor best.

H-A-P-P-I-N-E-S-S

Each one of us wishes to be happy and find true happiness. Some search for it too much while some just wait for it to come through their way. But as they say there is no shortcut to it. It is not easy to acquire, for only you yourself could tell if you really are happy. There is no accurate step for it that is agreed by every one on earth. Well every one has their own happiness.

However, majority of us may agree on this events or moments that happiness can be found. These are in the acronym H-A-P-P-I-N-E-S-S.


Help others. We all know that it is in making others happy, we can make ourselves happy. A simple way to make them happy is to help them. Be there for them, show them that you care. Help may not necessarily be in terms of money or material things but it could be the simpler one which is lightening their burdens. Show them that they are not alone and that you care. Be selfless. Prioritizing others can make you feel happy. But love yourself first, you can not give what you do not have.

Appreciate the beauty of life. Life may be a tough challenge to us, but don't forget that life is very beautiful. Bear in mind that challenges are just spices of life. They are their to make life worthwhile. They are life's decor which make it attractive and intriguing.

Patiently deal with life. In life we face so many trials and hardships. What else is new? They're part of the beauty of life. They are essential in the shaping of better individuals that would fit for the purpose of living. They cannot be separated to life, they are part of the package. Our only choice is to face them in an optimistic way and patiently. Deal with it.

Pursue your dreams. Some people find the beauty of life in their dreams. There is no art aesthetically designed known to man except dreams. They serve as inspirations for every individual to continue living. Pursuing one's dream will make a person happier because he gives life a reason to be beautiful and worth living. It is in pursuing our dreams we could say that life is really tough but because of my dreams I will beat the odds. Having this thought would make a man even more courageous to face each and every trials of life.

Indulge to life's flavor. Life is multi - flavored it is a combination of all the ingredients tasted by man. In other words life is full of taste. The point is, enjoy the flavor without hesitation as life takes its course. Let life lead the way.

Neglect regrets. In life we all make mistakes. They are inevitable. But every one makes mistakes. Don't regret. It is never your fault things did not go as it is planned. Just think of this "some things are meant to be and some things are not.

Express yourself. Do not live in the dark. Show yourself to people. Show them that you exist. Communicate with them, share your ideas be interactive. Let people know what's inside you and live according to the law of men"live as on of them."

Show the real you. It is nice to live without pretensions. Don't try to be anyone else, just be yourself. Don't try to live another persona so that people may like you. Just be true to yourself and to the people around you. If they don't like you, fine! It's not your obligation anymore, as long as you have been true to yourself. It's hard to please every body.

Smile. It shows that you are happy and you accept each and every challenge of life with arms wide open. It is in a simple smile true happiness is born.