Optimism's Reward

Every day we are faced to new challenges. Well, what else is new? As long as we are alive there would be problems along the way. But the best thing about having problems and being pressures, is that the best person within you arises and is brought into existence.

I received a forwarded message and its content in general is making use of an analogy of wines that are being produced from grapes due to pressure to and a person at his best despite life's inefficacy sometimes. In other words, the best within us is brought about by trials in our life. One thing I learned is that we must look at life in a positive perspective. It is because when one is optimistic enough, he can make burdens lighter, and sometimes it is not only his burdens that are being lifted but also others'.

The very price of an optimistic person is that he gets to have the best of life. This is so because of his attitude in which he always bite into the bright side of things. Instead of dealing with problems as burdens, he chose to face it as is it is only a homework to be submitted and that every equation has its own definite solution.

The bottom line here is that as individuals subject to problems, trials and burdens, we must be able to deal with it optimistically. In this way, you are making life a little lighter and placing it at its simplest state! Enjoy life as is you expose yourself to its beauty, as you explore is winding road and as you experience every bit of it and taste every flavor life may offer.

Stay positive and keep the candle burning. Oh and one more thing never let the road of life deceive you, try to lead is so that the destiny you would want to have will exist.

Victory

Every day we face a challenge to overcome,
Every moment we find solutions in our very palm.
Every problem will make us whole,
Every triumph will help us stand tall.

Victory is at stake,
That's why we avoid making mistakes.
But every error, will lead us to
The path we want to pursue.

Trials make us strong,
Even if life is not that long.
Friends keeps us going
Even if sometimes life is boring.

Life is never easy,
But it is always lovely.
Victory is what we are after
In life until forever.

The Road of Life

The road of life is full of twists and turns and sometimes a detour occurs.It is a long and a winding one. In other words it is full of uncertainties.

However, unlike any other road this road has no shortcut. You cannot easily proceed to adulthood without having passed the childhood (literally may be). And also in life people are searching for a well off life in which if it's possible they would want it instant. But they should know that before having a kind of life they must undergo a process mainly composed of aiming or setting goals, doing the desired acts, evaluating the acts done and finally enjoy the taste.

Aiming or setting goals. This step is the primary step(obvious!). In this step, an individual sets his mind to a certain goal he would want to accomplish sometime in the future. This is somewhat like a project plan, wherein you do make a pattern to follow in completing the project. You are listing the materials that are needed and total the cost of each item so that you can prepare for the expenses. It is like shaping your future, because when you have a goal you will never had a hard time in fulfilling a dream. In other words, it makes a person certain regarding what kind of life would he want to live.

Do it. After having a fixed goal things will follow smoothly. Of course you do the desired actions appropriate for your dream. For example, you want to be a good and famous writer then practice it. You must not stop on step one. Keep the fire burning within you so that you can achieve your goal. Never be discouraged by your failure. Failure is just there to measure your capability of achieving the dream you have within you. Never settle for anything less. GO FOR GOLD.

Evaluate it. In this step, you are task to check and evaluate the procedures you have done. this questions must be asked: have I done my best? have I not step on any one? have i done the right thing? was it appropriate?. If you could answer these questions, you can proceed to step four.

Enjoy the taste. Finally you have reached the goal. Reward yourself with the taste of success. Just don't mind your bruised knees. As they say the bruised knees belong to successful people.

Those are just some of the steps which proves that there is no shortcut in the road of life. Aside from a well off life people would wish to be happy. Not just an ordinary one but the intimate happiness known to man.

Just like having a well off life there isn't also a shortcut to happiness as they say. True indeed, happiness can not be easily achieved. Happiness is a noun which means a state of being happy brought about by good luck, fortunes, and even from simple yet meaningful things. Happiness has not got any certain steps in achieving it. But one thing is certain, if you want to achieve it work for it. And you must have the patience for it, happiness comes to those who believe that they can have it. I would suggest start by smiling. In smiling you are showing the world that you want to be happy. Smile despite the difficulties of life. A big laughter is an offspring of a heartily and well projected smile.

Life is really an unwinding road. Aside from its twist and turns, it does not have a certain meaning that would be acceptable for every puzzled minds. The mystery of its existence could not just simply be explained by biology. Life is a mystery that only our Almighty Father could define. However, its definition depends on how one perceives it. The reason for its existence depends on how one believes.

In Sickness..,

Yesterday August 17, 2009 I was attending the recollection when suddenly I feel hot, thus, making me unable to participate in the activities. Mr. Julius Libay (the Campus Minister of ND-SCP) and Sr. Michaela Bernardo O.P. advised me to rest. Aside from that they did take cere of me and Kuya Roel Tudlasan who also happened to be sick that time. They gave us all the care we wanted. And also one of the people who took care of me is Peter Paul Llerena and some of my friends also.

I have not expected for the to do that, especially Mr. Libay and Sr. Mike. I was so thankful that I was with them during that time. If it's not because of them I may have felt more than just sickness.

Being sick, I am supposed to be sad, but on the contrary I felt happier. Happy in a sense that even if I had not enjoyed the recollection, I have found out that some people do really care for me. I thank God for making me sick not because I will be given special treatment but because I have been taken care of of the persons whom I thought would not do such a thing. They sacrificed some of their time just to answer my needs. It is really true that God finds a way for us to know that some people do care for us so let us treasure our life and do good for others.

As a generalization, we must be thankful of the things God will give to us, be it in a form of luxury or sickness. It is because God knows the consequences of the things He has given unto us. He would not give us puzzles if we can not solve it. And also, I realized that some people are willing to help, all we have to do is ask for it. We must not be selfish in giving them the opportunity to be selfless. The bottom line is that, we must be sensitive to others who do care for us, we may not notice them but actually their hands are always open for us. They are always there with arms wide open.

Believe in yourself!

"Self confidence and self esteem are the things a person must have".

This idea was injected into my system by my teacher back in high school. She stressed to me its importance in my pursuit for education and also in my daily life. According to her, it is the best weapon anyone can have in order to reach the peak of success. "You can only face other people if you have already faced your own self", she added.

Being confident gives you the power to deal with others in a smart manner. However, I do believe that one can only be confident enough if he is being true to himself. Your behavior is a manifestation of your attitude. It is believed that people who tell lies most of the time are the insecure ones. They could not face the problems within them, that is why they tend to lie. Lying, in other words, serves as their defense mechanism. So, in this case self confidence and self esteem is missing.

The very effective way for a person to be confident is to be true with himself. How could you be confident enough if you yourself do not trust you?

Let it begin in you and let it flow to them. Being honest to yourself is one way of being true to yourself. As a consequence, you can develop self confidence for you feel secure, thus, giving you the chance to stand out. The point here is that there is no need for us to pretend and become the person whom we think could make us stand out. The key word there is being true to oneself, only then, you will have the guts as well as opportunities to stand out. Ain't it nice to be affirmed for being you, and doing the things you think you could? Isn't it more flattering to display the work you have done as a product of your idea?

Reflect on this:

I have friend, who always feels insecure and would want to act in a way similar to his schoolmate who happens to be the crowd favorite. He always compares himself to that guy, sometimes he patterns his work to that person's. But he is having a hard time doing so. He could not be at his best for that guy's standards does not fit his nor his does.

Later, he realized that he could not be at his best if will continue on following his schoolmate. He said "Why should I pattern my life to his when I can do more!". After that realization, he concluded that it is better to be yourself and do the things your good at, than to be someone who you're not. It is good to follow role models though.

I guess you already draw the picture and get my point. The key to your success is to be yourself and believe in the things you can do. The best edge you have from others is being you. They will never get the chance and privilege to be you. They could never wear your shoes nor use your tooth brush. Do not be insecure of yourself, you can be the best, all you have to do is believe.

Never dare utter words such as "I am a good - for - nothing person" nor say "I'm nobody". We are special in every way. Howard Gardner said "every child or person is a potential genius". There are things I can do that you cannot and there are things you can which I cannot. In other words, there is no point of comparison among humans. Biblically, we are created in the likeness of the Lord and we are wonderfully and fearfully created. Therefore, we are so special, we just have to belive in ourself by being true to oneself. Do your best, expect for the best and be at yuor best.

H-A-P-P-I-N-E-S-S

Each one of us wishes to be happy and find true happiness. Some search for it too much while some just wait for it to come through their way. But as they say there is no shortcut to it. It is not easy to acquire, for only you yourself could tell if you really are happy. There is no accurate step for it that is agreed by every one on earth. Well every one has their own happiness.

However, majority of us may agree on this events or moments that happiness can be found. These are in the acronym H-A-P-P-I-N-E-S-S.


Help others. We all know that it is in making others happy, we can make ourselves happy. A simple way to make them happy is to help them. Be there for them, show them that you care. Help may not necessarily be in terms of money or material things but it could be the simpler one which is lightening their burdens. Show them that they are not alone and that you care. Be selfless. Prioritizing others can make you feel happy. But love yourself first, you can not give what you do not have.

Appreciate the beauty of life. Life may be a tough challenge to us, but don't forget that life is very beautiful. Bear in mind that challenges are just spices of life. They are their to make life worthwhile. They are life's decor which make it attractive and intriguing.

Patiently deal with life. In life we face so many trials and hardships. What else is new? They're part of the beauty of life. They are essential in the shaping of better individuals that would fit for the purpose of living. They cannot be separated to life, they are part of the package. Our only choice is to face them in an optimistic way and patiently. Deal with it.

Pursue your dreams. Some people find the beauty of life in their dreams. There is no art aesthetically designed known to man except dreams. They serve as inspirations for every individual to continue living. Pursuing one's dream will make a person happier because he gives life a reason to be beautiful and worth living. It is in pursuing our dreams we could say that life is really tough but because of my dreams I will beat the odds. Having this thought would make a man even more courageous to face each and every trials of life.

Indulge to life's flavor. Life is multi - flavored it is a combination of all the ingredients tasted by man. In other words life is full of taste. The point is, enjoy the flavor without hesitation as life takes its course. Let life lead the way.

Neglect regrets. In life we all make mistakes. They are inevitable. But every one makes mistakes. Don't regret. It is never your fault things did not go as it is planned. Just think of this "some things are meant to be and some things are not.

Express yourself. Do not live in the dark. Show yourself to people. Show them that you exist. Communicate with them, share your ideas be interactive. Let people know what's inside you and live according to the law of men"live as on of them."

Show the real you. It is nice to live without pretensions. Don't try to be anyone else, just be yourself. Don't try to live another persona so that people may like you. Just be true to yourself and to the people around you. If they don't like you, fine! It's not your obligation anymore, as long as you have been true to yourself. It's hard to please every body.

Smile. It shows that you are happy and you accept each and every challenge of life with arms wide open. It is in a simple smile true happiness is born.

This is me

Earlier today, I have heard comments regarding my attitude. My "friend"( the marks indicate I'm not so sure if she is a friend) told me that our classmates have been complaining about the way I act and deal with people nowadays. She said "you know what?. They(my classmates) said that you are so mean and rude! I asked, " Why?" "Because you talk to them in a rude manner and sometimes if not always they're hurt", she answered. "Owzzz, is that so? I answered with an eyebrow raised. That conversation made me feel awkward until now. I do not know what to do.

Well this is me. I am the kind of person who does not after attention from others nor I would pretend to be someone who I'm not just for many people to like me. I'd rather have few friends as a product of my true intention than have so many friends in false pretensions. I don't want to come clean, but that is how I deal with people, so that as early as possible I can determine the persons that may like me despite my being tackless and blunt. I'd rather show the true color of my personality as early as possible so that people around me would not wander if who I really am. I am telling you, what you see in me is the real me..,

The real Mark Desyl Dayag is the kind of boy who rather says his opinion face-to-face and would heartily accept criticism as well. I usually critic other people, however they took it neagtively. I would prefer raising my eyebrow to the person iI hate than to project a nice but fake and evil smile. I'd rather live alone than be with anyone whom I hate. I don't want to offer people false friendship. If they could not accept me for who I am and who I'm not, then so be it.

"It's hard to please everybody" as quoted. True indeed, you can not please everyone no matter how nice you are to them, how much more if your being rude! Nice people prefers to hide in themselves what they feel about others just to avoid chaos. But for me, it is a no no. I'd rather tell what I want to say than keep it inside of me. I'd rather lose a friend by giving his dignity to him through my criticisms than have a friend with shattered ego.

It is a fact that only a few likes me, none the less I am happy about that at least some still likes me. It is not my fault if my system could not fit theirs nor their system could not fit mine. To the few who likes me, I thank you. For the many who don't thank you also, I wish you no ill but the best so that at least in this way I can be of help to you.

As an ending to this post I would like to share this thought to you "I live to criticize and be criticized but not to mesmerize, I suggest for you to improve as well as for me to improve but not to prove myself, and laslty if only a few likes me, I do also like a few."